Monday, May 31, 2010

Happy Memorial Day in honor of all those who died serving our country!
Photo © Chris Graham


Special salute to all those currently serving our country including my brother, Specialist Waller Uh-60 Blackhawk Crewchief, Army National Guard.

 

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Help Save the Wildlife!!

Help Save Wildlife Affected by BP Oil Spill

National Wildlife Federation and Partners Launch Second-Fastest Mobile Text2Give Campaign in History

05-05-2010 // Aileo Weinmann
Green Sea Turtle
With 200,000 gallons of oil gushing every day into an already fragile and vulnerable ecosystem, the BP oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico is shaping up to be one of the worst environmental disasters in our nation’s history. It is a direct threat to more than 400 species of wildlife – many still in recovery from Hurricane Katrina.
National Wildlife Federation (NWF) is on the frontlines: President and CEO Larry Schweiger has been working with local and regional partners, surveying the impacts, keeping the story as headline news, and consulting with officials on the ground.

NWF is calling on the public to help save wildlife during this unprecedented environmental crisis. With the help of their partners at Merkle, Inc. and Mobile Giving Foundation, NWF launched the second-fastest mobile giving campaign in history. NWF is especially grateful to all of its wireless carriers who moved so quickly to address the urgent need.

The Text2Give campaign allows the public to simply text the word WILDLIFE to 20222 on any mobile device through any carrier to donate $10 to NWF. Every dollar will go directly to help save wildlife affected by the oil spill and to conserve and restore these vital wetlands.

The speed and efficiency of the NWF Text2Give campaign only underscores the severity of the situation.
“Our treasured wildlife are innocent victims in this terrible crisis,” said Schweiger. “They cannot save themselves – it’s up to us to save them. That’s why I’m asking everyone to give what they can today.”
NWF is also asking that people with social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter to post a message asking friends and family to help out, too.

“The more people we can get to spread our message, the more impact we can have for wildlife affected by this senseless tragedy,” said Jaime Matyas, executive vice president & chief operating officer of National Wildlife Federation. “So please tweet, post a Facebook link, send out e-mails and text messages. Get the word out however you can and ask everyone to text WILDLIFE to 20222 right now! We need immediate support.”

Text "WILDLIFE" to 20222 to Donate $10

Monday, May 24, 2010

My Review of Shiny Dots Print 24" Expandable Hardside Rolling Suitcase

Originally submitted at CSN Stores

Hit the airport in style with the colorful Dots Shiny Print Collection by International Traveller! Keep all of your belongings safe and organized with this hardsided and expandable luggage collection. Available in a variety of polka dot color combinations, you are sure to find the luggag...

Very cute!
By Trendy Traveller from Virginia on 5/24/2010
4out of 5
Pros: Easy To Carry, Good Capacity, High Quality, Easy To Identify, Easy To Access Items
Best Uses: Long Vacations, Family Trips
Describe Yourself: Comfort-Oriented, Modern, Stylish, Career
Travel Frequency: 0-5 Annual Trips
Primary use: Personal
I like this luggage! It's very cute and stylish. Looks just like the photo and has more space than I thought. Seems to be made very well. Enjoy :)

Friday, May 21, 2010

Need Some Self Improvement Tips? Keep Reading..

Welcome to WomenEntrepreneur.com!

10 Action Tips to Enrich Your Life

Use these tips to avoid paralysis--and loss.
URL: http://www.womenentrepreneur.com/2010/04/10-action-tips-to-enrich-your-life.html
In order for things to happen in your life, you have to be in motion. Nothing occurs without motion. One word I've heard out of people's mouths lately is the word "paralyzed." Many people are feeling out of control or just flat-out confused about what to do in today's economy, so they do nothing--they're paralyzed.
As Albert Einstein said, "Nothing happens until something moves." People who do nothing--who are waiting for things to change or, worse, to go back to the way things were--will lose. I believe that everything happens for a reason. And the reason behind this economic fiasco may be an opportunity staring you in the face. The most important thing, in my opinion, is to stay in motion and take action.
Here are 10 things you can do today to keep in motion.
  1. Answer this question: What is the one thing in your life that, if you did it, would have the greatest positive impact in your life? The answer will probably come to you instantly, so don't discount the first answer that pops into your head. Once you know what that one thing is, commit to make the changes needed to achieve it. For some it might be losing 30 pounds and getting healthy. One woman knew immediately that she needed to end a toxic relationship with her boyfriend. For many women, the one thing may focus on profession or finances. We all have one thing in our life that, if handled, would make all the difference.
  2. Read a book. Ask yourself, "What do I want to learn next?" It may be related to business, investments, a hobby or personal development. What do you want to learn for your own business, financial and personal growth? Then begin with a book on the subject to start the creativity flowing.
  3. Play a game. Games are a great way to learn. Get together with a few friends in the evening and play a game that has a learning component to it. My husband and I created Cashflow 101 so people could teach one another about money and investing. Monopoly is another great game that teaches you to acquire properties and conduct business.
  4. Learn one new financial word every day. When you hear a financial word you don't understand, look it up on Wikipedia or in a financial/investment dictionary and learn the meaning.
  5. Watch your words. Pay attention to the words you use. What are you saying to yourself? Are your words supportive and positive? "I can do this." "I'm my own financial expert." Are your words demeaning, negative and harmful? "I'm not smart enough." "I don't know what to do." What you say to yourself and what you say to others can determine the quality of your life. Your thoughts truly do create your reality. One of my favorite books of all time on this subject is As A Man Thinketh by James Allen.
  6. Know your numbers. Tell yourself the truth about where you are today financially. List all income. List all expenses--and don't shortcut this step. Include all of your financial debts, IOUs, and agreements you've made with individuals, companies, friends and relatives. Review your personal financials twice a month, and twice a month ask yourself, "How can I improve my financial situation?"
  7. Buy a 1-ounce silver coin. Find your local precious-metals dealer. What good is buying silver? Three reasons:
    • For a little less than $20, you now own a commodity, a commodity that is a consumable. It's used in cell phones, computers, light bulbs, televisions, etc. And the demand for silver is only increasing. There is actually more gold in the world than there is silver.
    • It's a hedge against inflation. As the dollar continues to go down in value because the government is printing so much of it, silver generally goes up. This is why I save very few dollars and, instead, convert my dollars to silver.
    • At the end of 2008, the Dow was up approximately 17 percent, gold was up about 25 percent, and silver was up approximately 50 percent.
  8. Attend a seminar or meeting on investing or business. Many free or inexpensive meetings and seminars offer valuable information. Just be aware that if an educational meeting or workshop is offered for free, then the presenter is probably there to sell you something. Your job is to discern the difference between real information and the sales pitch.
  9. Start a part-time business. This can be as simple as buying a gumball machine and putting it in a local independent business such as a bookstore, car wash or toy store. Use your artistic abilities to create products to sell at arts-and-crafts shows or on the internet. Is there a hobby you do for fun that you could turn into a part-time business? If the idea takes off, it could grow into something much bigger.
  10. This may be the most important thing you can do: Think for yourself. So much information is available today and so many opinions exist that it's important not to go along with the crowd but to truly do your own thinking to figure out what's best for you. Too often people looking for the hot tip or the quick fix take the first answer that comes along instead of thinking through the situation. As Henry Ford said, "Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably why so few people engage in it." Here is an example of someone not thinking for himself. I was watching one of the national morning TV programs. It had a panel of financial experts answering people's questions. One man called in and said he had lost his job 10 months before and wondered whether he should cash in his retirement fund or sell his house. That is all the information the "experts" received. What advice was he given? One expert, without knowing his financial situation or what options he had available to him, told him, "You should sell your house." He said, "Oh, thank you so much for your advice." I was outraged! First, I was livid that someone representing herself as a financial expert would give such bad and potentially dangerous advice without knowing the facts. Second, I was upset that this man would actually consider following this terrible advice. Thinking for yourself does not just apply to your financial life--it applies to every area of your life. There was a time in my life when I began questioning what I'd been taught by my parents, teachers, friends and colleagues. Was I operating on their thoughts and ideas or on my own? I began to discover my strengths, my weaknesses, my gifts and talents, and what was truly important to me. Think for yourself was a powerful step for me in being true to myself.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Happy Mother's Day!

Happy Mother's Day to all Mom's, Grandmother's and Guardians! Your hard work is Appreciated! Special Mother's Day wish to my Grandma - Mary, my Mom - Alice, my older sister - JaLisa, my younger sister - Jessica, and my sister-in-law - Janie! Love you guys!!


Friday, May 7, 2010

Stay Abreast of Industry News

Did you know that a recent poll conducted across the BusinessWorkforce.com Network found that more than 33 percent of business professionals do not keep up with the latest trends in their industry? If you were a hiring manager, wouldn’t you want to hire a professional who was well informed and could contribute by providing fresh new ideas and add value to your business?




One of the easiest ways to stay ahead is to stay informed. So what are some of the best ways to stay in the know when searching for a job? Located below are some ideas to consider:
  • Attend Classes and Seminars. Furthering your education and knowledge in your field will not only keep you up-to-date on new developments and techniques, but it will also help you become a memorable candidate to potential employers. Attending classes or seminars and noting them on your resume shows that you take initiative and have the drive that employers are looking for in a candidate. If you are a professional entering a new industry, this is a great way to learn about a new career path before taking that first step.
  • Search Online Articles and Blogs. A great way to find valuable information about your field or industry is to search and visit sites that provide valuable articles or blogs about the latest topics of interest to you. Don’t forget to visit our Career Resources area often to read the latest articles to help you grow personally and professionally.
  • Read Industry Magazines. As a job seeker, it is important to be on top of the latest news affecting your industry and know which companies and industries are hot and which are not. By staying educated you will demonstrate your knowledge to potential employers in this increasingly competitive job market and get ahead of other candidates.
  • Look to Government Resources. Are you familiar with the Bureau of Labor Statistics? They provide a wealth of information on the employment and job markets across a variety of industries. Is your industry growing or shrinking? Do you know the salary range for your industry or what skills you need to enter or stay ahead in your position? You can access the latest employment and job information by visiting their site.
  • Join a Professional Membership Organization. There are numerous benefits to becoming a member of a professional organization. You will gain access to important networking contacts in your field, receive invitations to networking events in your area, and have access to seminars, classes, and other educational opportunities to help you stay informed. Consider it free education!
At BusinessWorkforce.com, we want to help you gain the knowledge that you need and the competitive advantage that you deserve. We are excited to offer you a complimentary one-year subscription to an industry magazine of your choice. You can search from hundreds of leading industry publications. We encourage you to take advantage of this special offer.

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Now that you have been introduced to some helpful resources to gain a competitive advantage in your job search, we will soon share the many benefits of advancing your career by furthering your education. Until then, located below are a few helpful resources to help you along the way.



Career Resources
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Best regards,

The BusinessWorkforce.com Team
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Monday, May 3, 2010

Marketing Yourself

Develop Your Personal Brand
Personal branding is an ongoing process that should exist throughout your job search process and entire career. The goal of establishing a strong personal brand is to differentiate yourself among other professionals by demonstrating your unique value to employers. Below are a few steps you need to take to successfully build your brand while marketing yourself to potential employers:
  • Increase Your Visibility. The first step towards building your personal brand is to get your name out there. The best way to establish a presence in your field is by attending industry meetings and conferences, participating in panel discussions or volunteering for committees. You never know when your contacts will be able to help you along your job search.
  • Stay Connected. It is important to stay in touch with old contacts as well as continue to build and maintain your current network on a regular basis. Don’t be someone who reaches out to contacts only when they need something. Foster those relationships, especially the important ones!
  • Create an Online Presence. Take professional networking to the next level by joining online social networking sites. Consider starting a blog on your area of expertise or creating a website that showcases samples of your work. Make an effort to meet other professionals online by commenting on relevant blogs or connecting with professionals through their social networking profile. Consider creating an online career portfolio and remember to manage your online reputation to ensure you are always presenting yourself in a positive, professional manner when interacting online.
  • Establish Key Differentiators. Identify what makes you distinctive from other candidates and make sure to communicate it to potential employers. It is important to be honest about who you are as a professional and understand your strengths and unique value you bring to the table. It’s also important to recognize your weaknesses and develop a plan for personal improvement. By knowing yourself, you can more effectively promote yourself to others.
  • Be Consistent. Ensure that you have a consistent message when speaking with potential employers, colleagues and other professionals. While you may not realize it, everything that you do or say contributes to your personal brand, including the way you conduct yourself in meetings, in phone conversations, through email communications and how you dress.
  • Seek Feedback and Evaluate Progress. Once you have established your personal brand, it is important to continue to gauge how others perceive you. Test your market value by gathering constructive feedback from your co-workers, peers, family and friends. By understanding how others view your personal brand, you can learn what steps you need to take to position yourself for success.
Market Yourself
Developing your personal brand is one of the first steps towards effectively marketing yourself to potential employers and elevating your career. Employers appreciate job seekers that take the initiative to get noticed and differentiate themselves from other candidates in their industry.

Consider using a resume distribution service to effectively reach employers that are searching for candidates just like you. Remember, some employers choose to search resume databases for candidates instead of posting jobs. You want to be seen by these employers. Don’t delay; employers are searching for candidates like you right now!

Distribute Your Resume

Have you ever wondered if you have what it takes to be your own boss? Look for the next Job Search Guide email which will discuss the benefits of freelance consulting and owning your own franchise business with very little investment.

In the meantime, located below are a few helpful resources to help build and maintain your personal brand. Have a great day.


Career Resources
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Best regards,

The BusinessWorkforce.com Team
BusinessWorkforce.com

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Happy Earth Day 2010




Happy Earth Day!! Are you living green? Would you like to do more to help save the environment? Click the links to find out ways in which you, your family, and community can help contribute to saving the Earth everyday!

[Graphic property of and courtesy of Environmental Council of Sacramento.]


101 Ways to Save the Planet
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Recommended: Together We Can Change The World - 101 Ways to Help Save Planet Earth

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Friday, April 16, 2010

10 resume mistakes that turn off employers

There is no such thing as a perfect resume. This is particularly true when changing industries, functionalities, or upgrading a job role. Career transitions require a higher-level targeted approach. The best resume, employers say, is the one that portrays the candidate as a solution-provider. Prove you can make their problems go away and you'll get hired.

Randolph L Stevens, president and CEO of career marketing and outplacement firm R.L. Stevens & Associates Inc., offers these 10 resume mistakes that may keep your from getting the job you seek.

1. NO CONNECTION TO EMPLOYER NEED

Make your job search about them, not you. Pitch relevancy. Perform in-depth research and conduct a "SWOT" analysis of their needs. Identify their Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities for growth, and Threats to growth. Investigate two of their biggest competitors similarly. Present your achievements to quickly demonstrate your understanding of not only an employer's needs, but challenges within the industry. This is especially critical if you're transitioning to another industry in which you lack experience. Your resume must speak the industry's language or you won't be heard.

2. NOT RESPECTING THE EMPLOYER'S TIME

The easier you make it for a hiring manager to read your resume, the more likely you'll get on their payroll. Resume reviews are as exciting to a decision maker as yesterday's stale coffee. Your resume should - in 20 seconds or less - show how you'll make or save money, generate new business, resurrect and retain existing clients or customers, expand and build relationships, and just make their world a safer and more pleasant place. Don't ever assume an employer knows what you're communicating. 

3. LACK OF FOCUS AND DIRECTION

Successful marketing campaigns match products with customers. The same rule applies in ensuring job search success. Be strategic in thinking, undiluted in focus, and directionally on point. Your resume should communicate career progression and intelligent, meaningful contribution. Even if your job history is marked with job hopping, or appears transitional, your resume needs to highlight the transferable skills you used to succeed in completing a project. A Qualifications Summary or Profile positioned at the top of your resume is the best place to demonstrate that your career is not rudderless.

4. NOT SHOWING KNOWLEDGE OF THE TARGETED INDUSTRY

Your resume must answer a recruiter's primary question: "What can you do for me?" When you are moving to another industry, you need to neutralize all the naysayers who think you aren't qualified due to your lack of industry-specific experience. The words you use to detail career accomplishments and showcase transferable skills should be crafted to show relevancy. One of the simplest ways to connect the dots for them is by studying help-wanted ads in your targeted industry and looking for job functions, tasks, and requirements that are similar to what you are currently doing. 

5. INCOHERENT NARRATIVE PACING

A well-written resume weaves a succinct story that communicates mastery of relevant skills, industry-specific knowledge, and the ability to handle all people and situations. Make sure your resume is coherent and logical. A disjointed work history that lacks progression in job role or responsibility, or one that exhibits a lack of emotional stability or adaptability, will unravel your chances of capturing an employer's interest. When designing your resume, keep the most important information at the top. Think like a busy hiring manager. 

6. LACK OF SUBSTANTIVE CONTENT

It's not about what you've done. It's about what you've achieved. What are the crucial details? Overuse of weak words such as "managed" or "responsible for" portray intellectual laziness. Accomplishments can also include relevant extracurricular activities, especially those where you demonstrate leadership, ingenuity, and organizational skills. Show a prospective employer why you fit the specific position. Your credibility will tank if you don't. 

7. NOT MAKING IT EASILY READABLE

Readability equals digestibility. Simplify industry jargon and acronyms so that anyone can understand your resume. Isolate accomplishments from job duties and focus on transferable skills that are universal to any industry. If you can't tell it, you won't sell it. Tell it in bulleted form. Dense paragraphs and long, run-on sentences guarantee an employer's yawn, and ultimately, a deleted resume. Digestibility equals relevancy. 

8. OUT-OF-DATE CONTENT AND DESIGN

Avoid resume templates that make your resume look like a thousand others. Don't include a link to your personal website or MySpace, YouTube, or FaceBook page. Do include a link to your online portfolio. Build instant credibility with a web portfolio that loads fast, is visually professional, and contains well-written sections showcasing your accomplishments, mission statement, core values, career progression, and leadership aptitude.

9. LIES, LIES, LIES

There are serious short- and long-term career consequences to fabricating or exaggerating credentials. Your integrity and credibility are at risk. There's never a good reason to lie on your resume; not a full lie, a white lie, misrepresentation of information, or padding to enhance marketing spin. Resume lies include overstatement of work history or accomplishments, academic achievement, or even deleting an experience because the organization no longer exists. Decision makers routinely conduct background checks and online research to verify a resume.

10. USING THE ONE-SIZE-FITS-ALL RESUME

There are at least 10 resume types — including chronological, functional, and those designed for spot opportunities — and each has a specific purpose. The end-game for all resume writing should be to obtain quality interviews. Prove you're in step with reality by ditching the old-school, one-size-fits-all resume. Match the medium or venue with the target audience. Make your resume a marketing piece that sells your long-term value. 
Source: The Boston Globe,  http://www.boston.com/jobs/galleries/10_resume_mistakes/
(Text: Randolph L Stevens; Photo: istockphoto.com)

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Need to Revamp Your Resume?

Résumés Redefined

OfficeTeam
 
Much has changed about the job search process in recent years. Workers now look online for employment leads, for example, and companies have rolled out inventive benefits programs to attract the best talent. But what about the résumé? Most people assume it's the one dinosaur that's yet to evolve.
Think again. Subtle changes are afoot, and, thanks to new technologies, today's résumé is different in many ways from its 20th century counterpart. Following are some résumé developments you should be aware of:

The Long and Short of It: Résumés Are Inching Up
There's one rule of résumé writing that virtually every job seeker knows: A single-page résumé is best. But this long-prevailing guideline is no longer set in stone. While 52 percent of executives polled by our company still consider one page the optimal length for staff-level résumés, 44 percent feel two pages is preferable.
Of course, this doesn't mean you should ramble on; less is still more. While employers may be accepting of a two-page document, being long-winded could hurt your cause since hiring managers have little time to devote to each application they receive. A premium will always be placed on job seekers who effectively prioritize information and write in a manner that is both compelling and concise.
To accomplish this goal, zero in on your top qualifications, write short and crisp sentences and avoid pedantic résumé-speak, including technical jargon and trendy business phrases like "value-added" or "thinking outside the box." And, of course, omit all statements that are not pertinent to the position for which you are applying.


Keywords Are Key
Keywords are terms that describe the experience, skills, personality traits, software proficiencies or academic credentials that a certain position requires. They are important to consider because many companies now use filtering software to scan résumés for keywords, flagging those with a high concentration for further consideration. In fact, according to Taleo Research, a firm that studies management practices, 94 percent of the top 500 U.S. companies use computer programs to evaluate résumés. This trend has caused some job seekers to respond creatively. In an attempt to get a leg up on the competition, they hide keywords in their résumés by camouflaging them in white type or decreasing the font size so that the text is invisible to all but a computer.
But these tactics can often backfire. Improved résumé search software can now catch and flag arbitrarily inserted keywords, lowering the résumé's ranking and sending the offending candidate's application to the recycle bin. Plus, trying to trick the system can simply make you look bad.
Instead, you want to include keywords that accurately represent your employment background. Let's say you're applying for a position as an office administrator, for example. According to the employment ad, the company seeks a someone who is a "self-motivated and energetic individual who is highly organized and can work independently." Customize your résumé so that the wording mirrors this language from the job description by including terms such as "self-motivated," "compelling," "energetic," "highly organized" and "work independently" when discussing your previous experience.

Candidates on Camera
Another recent development is the advent of the "video résumé." While the tried-and-true printed (or electronic) résumé remains a job seeker's primary promotional tool, some candidates -- especially those in fields requiring stellar creative abilities -- are trying to distinguish themselves with video résumés.
Technological advancements have made it relatively easy and inexpensive to produce a professional-looking video and upload it to a Web site, where prospective employers can view it. It remains to be seen if the video résumé represents a passing fad or the future. A Harris Interactive survey, however, indicates both employers and candidates are at least intrigued by the concept. In the survey, 60 percent of hiring managers and human resources professionals polled expressed "some interest" in seeing video résumés. In addition, 49 percent of workers expressed some willingness to post a video résumé to attract the attention of a prospective employer.
There has been a general conception that the résumé never changes. While the hallmarks of a good résumé -- clarity, truthfulness and relevance -- remain the same, technology and hiring trends have influenced the way they are produced and reviewed. Recognizing these changes and keeping abreast of future developments will enable you to market yourself as effectively as possible.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Handmade Blanket For Sale!

Buy this beautiful, handmade afghan priced at $55 obo!!! Comfortably fits a twin or full sized bed. Cleaning Instructions: Spot clean or Machine wash, air dry. Contact me for more information. Item #001 - Patriotic Blanket, Dimensions are 49W x 64L estimate, as is. Accepts PayPal. ~Created by Veronica



Friday, April 9, 2010

One of My Favorite People

I absolutely love John McBain on the soap opera One Life to Life! My greatest wish is for him to leave Natalie alone already. But, anyway, check out his website.


http://www.michaeleaston.com

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

How to Make One Fabulous First Impression

What is the first thing someone notices about you? How long does it really take to make a first impression? Read on and find out!
How to Make One Fabulous First Impression
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Whether you like it or not, people decide how they feel about you in the first two seconds of seeing you, or hearing you, if it’s on the phone. If they like you, they will unconsciously tend to see the best in you and look for opportunities to say “yes.” If they don’t like you, the opposite is true.

The first thing someone notices about you is the quality and the level of energy you give out. That means your attitude (including your posture). The second thing they respond to is your clothes. In fact, the impact is made so quickly it’s as if they see both things at the same time, and then form their first impressions about you. Your attitude tells people if you are open or closed, charming or alarming. Your posture is an indication of your overall health: humans are hard-wired to seek out healthy mates. Your clothing speaks volumes. It tells people what kind of person you see yourself as. It also can reveal a lot about your socioeconomic status, whether you’re conventional or flamboyant, sexy or modest, trendy or traditional. Take a good hard look at your wardrobe and see if it makes the statement you want.


Here are four concrete steps to help create a terrific first impression:

First, adjust your attitude. More than anything else it’s your attitude that determines how people feel about you when you first meet. Choose what I call a “useful” attitude – upbeat, welcoming, enthusiastic, etc.

Second, be charming rather than alarming. That means making eye contact, if only for a couple of seconds – this unconsciously signals that trust is in the air. Just notice the person’s eye color – that’ll do it.

Third, smile with genuine enjoyment. (Here’s a way to do that. Practice saying the word “great” over and over in a mirror using crazy voices until you feel like a giant idiot or you crack up – then say it under your breath to yourself as you approach people. I guarantee you’ll be smiling.) A smile sends a signal that you’re happy and confident.

Fourth, keep your body language open and relaxed. Rather than crossing your arms over your chest, go literally “heart to heart” with the other person – point your heart toward theirs, which signals that you’re not going to harm them.

Here are five ways to score you big points when you walk into a room full of strangers.

1. Wear great clothes. More people will take you seriously (don't over do it - don't be better than anyone else).

2. Head for the middle. (Popular people always go to the middle of the room in restaurants, parties classrooms etc.) There’s nothing that demonstrates confidence the way this does. Ever wonder why the people that sit around the edges are called wall-flowers?

3. Move more slowly than usual. People who move fractionally more slowly than others tend to get noticed and come across as sexy. Get into the habit so it becomes natural: otherwise don't bother.

4. 3-second rule. In a social situation, notice someone and within three seconds go over and say something (ask directions, or introduce yourself, or ask a question). Do this several times.

5. Ask "Talk-Show" questions. The best way to start a conversation is with a statement followed by an open question. "I hear Seattle's a fantastic place. If I only had three hours, what should I see?" Remember to give feedback.

Your irresistible first impression is instantly determined by your attitude, your poise and your wardrobe. Enhancing and focusing on these important aspects of your image will do more than boost your chances in the love market, it’ll also boost the way you feel about yourself. When we feel good about ourselves it affects everything. We make better decisions, feel more adventurous, have more energy, and tap into our natural enthusiasm, all of which impacts the nonverbal signals we send out to others. Being on top of our game means others will want to join in and play.

Nicholas Boothman is the author of How to Make Someone Fall in Love with You in 90 Minutes or Less. His website is http://www.nicholasboothman.com/ Get your copy of Nicholas Boothman's "How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You In 90 Minutes"

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